Aging with Grace

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality, Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.

Lao Tzu

Living for a year with the changes created by the pandemic didn’t mean things went back to normal when we received a vaccine, at least, not for me. I realize I approach life more cautiously now. I think longer before I act and, sometimes, hesitate to do the things I once did.

My new reality became clear on two different occasions. The first envolved planning a long weekend in Santa Fe. I wasn’t entirely sure I wanted to go. Having not traveled anywhere in over a year, staying home didn’t seem like such a bad option. I felt safe at home and I didn’t have to put fourth the effort traveling required. Ultimately, I made the hotel reservations, looked into restaurant and entertainment options, organized someone to stay with our dog, packed, and off we went. Actually, It was the best trip to Santa Fe we’ve had and I was happy we went.

The second incident happened over the past few weeks, when making plans for the Fourth of July. Before last year, we’ve hosted a cookout for around a dozen people, followed by a trip to a local park to hear a concert. This year, as much as I enjoy visiting with friends and family, I just couldn’t get it done. We ended up with just a small family gathering to cookout and later go to the park. It was not a bad choice, we had a great time together, it was just different.

Moving forward, I am not sure I still won’t hesitate when considering travel or planning on entertaining. We are thinking about a big trip, next year, and I have some qualms as I begin to plan. As we get closer to the holidays, I don’t know how I will feel about the gatherings I use to have. In the past, that included a party for 15 or 20 people, a bookclub brunch for 10 and a Christmas tea for a few close friends. Maybe, it’s okay to let things move forward in whatever way they like.