Selective Memory

Chihuly Garden and Glass, Denver Botanic Gardens

Memory is so selective; wishful thinking presses it into service all the time.

Fay Weldon

I have the unfortunate habit of seeing what should be there instead of what is there when I proofread my writing. Thankfully, AI has made my life much easier in this regard by providing tools that help identify grammatical mistakes, spelling errors, and punctuation errors. However, I did notice an error that slipped through in last week’s post, which serves as a reminder that while technology can significantly enhance my editing process, it still cannot replace the human eye.

I’ve been thinking about my memory, which seems to operate selectively. Some details stand out vividly, while others, equally important, fade into obscurity. This tendency to remember positive events often leads me to view my past through an overly optimistic lens. As I age, I realize the importance of maintaining a balanced perspective. It’s crucial for me to remember both the happy times and the challenging moments that have shaped me into who I am today.

Chasing the idea of forgetting negative experiences can create an illusion that the past was solely a collection of wonderful memories. However, this perspective can be misleading. Each experience, whether good or bad, teaches valuable lessons and contributes to personal growth. By working to join both the highs and lows of my life, I can develop a more true understanding of what has shaped me. This ensures that I don’t overlook the valuable lessons drawn from all my experiences.

I’m determined not to become one of those older individuals who nostalgically reminisce about the “good old days.” The 20th century witnessed numerous positive events, such as the Civil Rights Movement, Women’s Suffrage, and the invention of the internet. However, it’s important to acknowledge the challenges faced, including the two World Wars, the Great Depression, and a rise in terrorism. Each generation has its ups and downs. In today’s world, I believe our country confronts some terrifying challenges. Reflecting on the past and remembering how we’ve overcome frightening events in our history can help us navigate these difficult times.

Peace be with you.